Teaching families and schools that behavior is biology,
not character flaws
S.A.I.L.™ Method
S.A.I.L.™ Method
S.A.I.L.™ Method
Get to Know Your Brain Crew
Sage
Sage
Snappy
Snappy
Stanley
Stanley
Sage
Sage
Snappy
Snappy
Sage
Snappy
Stanley
Sage
Snappy
Sage
Snappy
Stanley
Sage
Snappy
Sage the Turtle
Your prefrontal cortex, the wise part that helps you pause and lead yourself
Sage the Turtle
Your prefrontal cortex, the wise part that helps you pause and lead yourself
Sage the Turtle
Your prefrontal cortex, the wise part that helps you pause and lead yourself
Snappy the Crab
Your amygdala, the part that gets loud when you feel unsafe
Snappy the Crab
Your amygdala, the part that gets loud when you feel unsafe
Snappy the Crab
Your amygdala, the part that gets loud when you feel unsafe
S.A.I.L Method
Stop
Pause and Notice.
The first step is to interrupt the autopilot response. This is where we pause, take a breath, and notice what's happening inside - notice our body cues and nervous system states in the moment, without judgment.
Anchor
Come back to the body.
Use grounding tools to help the nervous system regain safety. This might look like deep breaths, sensory input, or a supportive mantra. Anchoring brings the brain back online.
Investigate
Name what’s going on.
With the body calmer, you can now identify what triggered you and what emotion or unmet need is present. This builds emotional literacy and helps reframe your experience.
Lead
Choose your next best action.
Once you're regulated and aware, you can respond intentionally - with self-leadership, empathy, and connection rather than reactivity. You're responding from your values and character, not your wounds or triggers.
Stop
Pause and Notice.
The first step is to interrupt the autopilot response. This is where we pause, take a breath, and notice what's happening inside - notice our body cues and nervous system states in the moment, without judgment.
Anchor
Come back to the body.
Use grounding tools to help the nervous system regain safety. This might look like deep breaths, sensory input, or a supportive mantra. Anchoring brings the brain back online.
Investigate
Name what’s going on.
With the body calmer, you can now identify what triggered you and what emotion or unmet need is present. This builds emotional literacy and helps reframe your experience.
Lead
Choose your next best action.
Once you're regulated and aware, you can respond intentionally - with self-leadership, empathy, and connection rather than reactivity. You're responding from your values and character, not your wounds or triggers.
Stop
Pause and Notice.
Anchor
Come back to the body.
Investigate
Name what’s going on.
Lead
Choose your next best action.
Emotional Regulation Cards
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Sophia, Snappy, and Sage
Sophia, Snappy, and Sage
Sophia, Snappy, and Sage
Stanley, Snappy, and Sage
Stanley, Snappy, and Sage
Stanley, Snappy, and Sage
About Me
S.A.I.L.™ Method
S.A.I.L.™ Method
S.A.I.L.™ Method
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Hi, I'm Aunt Sea
I used to think “difficult” kids were choosing to be difficult. Then I learned about the nervous system - and everything changed. I’m Aunt Sea: educator, author, emotional intelligence coach, and a calm-in-progress human on a mission to turn brain science into everyday magic.
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Hi, I'm Aunt Sea
I used to think “difficult” kids were choosing to be difficult. Then I learned about the nervous system - and everything changed. I’m Aunt Sea: educator, author, emotional intelligence coach, and a calm-in-progress human on a mission to turn brain science into everyday magic.
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Hi, I'm Aunt Sea
I used to think “difficult” kids were choosing to be difficult. Then I learned about the nervous system - and everything changed. I’m Aunt Sea: educator, author, emotional intelligence coach, and a calm-in-progress human on a mission to turn brain science into everyday magic.
Ways We Can Work Together
Book A Call!
Book A Call!
Book A Call!
In Person/Online
1:1 Emotional Regulation Coaching (Adults & Teens)
1:1 Emotional Regulation Coaching (Adults & Teens)
1:1 Emotional Regulation Coaching (Adults & Teens)
Family Nervous System Transformation Sessions
Family Nervous System Transformation Sessions
Family Nervous System Transformation Sessions
Parent-Child Co-regulation Coaching
Parent-Child Co-regulation Coaching
Parent-Child Co-regulation Coaching
Adult Trauma-Informed Nervous System Healing
Adult Trauma-Informed Nervous System Healing
Adult Trauma-Informed Nervous System Healing
Family Conflict Resolution & Repair Training
Family Conflict Resolution & Repair Training
Family Conflict Resolution & Repair Training
Couples Nervous System Awareness Coaching
Couples Nervous System Awareness Coaching
Couples Nervous System Awareness Coaching
Home-School Behavior Advocacy (Bridge building between families and schools)
Home-School Behavior Advocacy (Bridge building between families and schools)
Home-School Behavior Advocacy (Bridge building between families and schools)
Student Nervous System Assessment & Support Planning
Student Nervous System Assessment & Support Planning
Student Nervous System Assessment & Support Planning
IEP/504 Plan Nervous System Integration
IEP/504 Plan Nervous System Integration
IEP/504 Plan Nervous System Integration
Parent-School Communication Coaching
Parent-School Communication Coaching
Parent-School Communication Coaching
Educational Team Collaboration Facilitation
Educational Team Collaboration Facilitation
Educational Team Collaboration Facilitation
In-School Programming
Nervous System Literacy for Students (Snappy & Sage programs)
Nervous System Literacy for Students (Snappy & Sage programs)
Nervous System Literacy for Students (Snappy & Sage programs)
Educator Co-regulation Training
Educator Co-regulation Training
Educator Co-regulation Training
School-wide S.A.I.L. Method Implementation
School-wide S.A.I.L. Method Implementation
School-wide S.A.I.L. Method Implementation
Classroom Culture Transformation (Regulation-based approaches)
Classroom Culture Transformation (Regulation-based approaches)
Classroom Culture Transformation (Regulation-based approaches)
Crisis Prevention Through Nervous System Understanding
Crisis Prevention Through Nervous System Understanding
Crisis Prevention Through Nervous System Understanding
Teacher Nervous System Wellness Programs
Teacher Nervous System Wellness Programs
Teacher Nervous System Wellness Programs
Regulation skills training for peer support (Teaching students to help each other S.A.I.L.)
Regulation skills training for peer support (Teaching students to help each other S.A.I.L.)
Regulation skills training for peer support (Teaching students to help each other S.A.I.L.)
S.A.I.L. Method Digital Training
S.A.I.L. Method Digital Training
S.A.I.L. Method Digital Training
Keynote Speaking & Workshops
Keynote Speaking & Workshops
Keynote Speaking & Workshops
Behavior Support Consultations
Behavior Support Consultations
Behavior Support Consultations
Trauma-Informed Practice Training
Trauma-Informed Practice Training
Trauma-Informed Practice Training
"Calm Crew" Resource Hub & Community
"Calm Crew" Resource Hub & Community
"Calm Crew" Resource Hub & Community
Regulation in Real Life
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
Vicky Says...
“My kids love Aunt Sea's books! As a teacher, I am always looking for new innovative ways to connect to my students. The kids absolutely love Sophia, Snappy, and Sage and have started to use the language of the book with each other!”
Jackie Says...
"Carolyn has been a huge support to me and my son. His teenage years have been challenging for the both of us and Carolyn’s coaching has provided us the support and tools we both needed. Thank you so much, Carolyn."
Jenn Says...
“When Carolyn released Sophia's Rose, I had to purchase it immediately. Carolyn just knows how to speak to children and provide a safe place. All of her books are authentic, knowledgable, and emotionally intelligent!”
You ask, I answer.
FAQs
FAQs
FAQs
What age group is the S.A.I.L.™ Method for?
While the tools are often introduced to kids as young as 3, the method isn’t age-restricted. I've worked with teens, parents, and even entire school staffs using the same brain-body framework. Emotional literacy is for every nervous system.
My child gets labeled as “defiant.” How would you approach that?
Is this therapy?
Can you come to our school and work with our staff?
What makes the S.A.I.L.™ Method different from other behavior tools??
What if I’m still learning to regulate myself?
Is it ever too late to learn emotional regulation?
What age group is the S.A.I.L.™ Method for?
While the tools are often introduced to kids as young as 3, the method isn’t age-restricted. I've worked with teens, parents, and even entire school staffs using the same brain-body framework. Emotional literacy is for every nervous system.
My child gets labeled as “defiant.” How would you approach that?
Is this therapy?
Can you come to our school and work with our staff?
What makes the S.A.I.L.™ Method different from other behavior tools??
What if I’m still learning to regulate myself?
Is it ever too late to learn emotional regulation?
What age group is the S.A.I.L.™ Method for?
While the tools are often introduced to kids as young as 3, the method isn’t age-restricted. I've worked with teens, parents, and even entire school staffs using the same brain-body framework. Emotional literacy is for every nervous system.